A friend on Facebook writes:
Can you help me understand something? I was a member of a metaphysical church and these people run the church cult-like. If the minister and healers didn’t like a certain person that belong to the church they would start abusing you emotionally and verbally and make the person feel unwelcome! Is this metaphysical type of behavior? (specific references removed)
To begin our answer, let us clarify that there is no such thing as “Metaphysical” behavior. Behavior is a physical or emotional action. “Metaphysical” refers to things that exist beyond visible nature and our attempts to understand them. The Metaphysical aspect of what you describe is not the behavior, but rather the energy that is created by that choice of behavior, and in turn, how we choose to react to it.
The fact that a person associated with a particular church (or any organization) does not mean that the person will behave according to that organization’s principles. We are spiritual beings with free will, living a human experience. Part of that human experience sometimes draws out our personal preferences and desires in a way that might interfere with our spiritual self. Distinguishing between the physical and spiritual sides of our existence, and having the two work in harmony is part of the path that we are on in this earthly experience, and one of the many lessons we are here to learn.
One of our greatest challenges in this physical life is to learn to live in the most positive, loving way possible. Where there is love, there is no room for hatred, anger, fear or doubt. By trusting in our own reactions, we can have a positive influence on any situation. Our thoughts are “things,” that affect the world around us, as demonstrated by quantum physics. Our thoughts create a principle, which then manifests physically in some form. If we think and act with hatred, we create hatred. If we think and act with love, we create love.
The Law of Attraction and the Law of Cause and Effect (also known as Karma) play a big role in your situation. We reap what we sow. The Golden Rule tells us to treat others as we would like to be treated. When this does not happen, it creates discord. Karma is not good or bad, it just “is.” The perception of “good” and “bad” is a personal judgment we place on a person or situation based on our own earthly opinions. In your situation, the action of undesirable treatment had an appropriate reaction of driving someone away. Any situation has its balance, though it doesn’t always happen when we would like it to!
Everything we experience in life teaches us a lesson in some way. If someone is treating another in a less-than-optimal way, we can learn to react in a way that transmutes the situation, rather than intensifying it. This is the principle of Spiritual Healing.
In your example, it appears that people at your church are reacting from their human emotions and judgments rather than from Metaphysical principles. By refraining from validating these actions, we can transmute and influence the situation to create more positive results.
There is an expression that we learn as children, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” The key here is that no one can hurt you unless you let them. Because we live on an eternal path, even our physical life is only temporary. Nothing is permanent. When you find yourself experiencing or even anticipating something uncomfortable, think to yourself, “What is the worst thing that could happen?” or “How can I react so this does not lead me to create pain or anguish for myself?” Follow your instinct, maintain a calm attitude, and call on your spiritual guides and teachers to help you find the right answers. They will never let you down.
For your situation, it sounds like being in that energy didn’t work for you. Our organization does not have a church in your area, but there are many metaphysical organizations that have a supportive and welcoming environment that you can appreciate.
Rest assured that a “spiritual” organization that doesn’t maintain a consistent, loving environment will probably have trouble surviving. This is part of their life path and their Karma. Forgive them for their actions, and thank them for the lessons you have learned from them, for they will learn to understand the impact of what they have created. More importantly, forgive yourself for allowing them to diminish the positive energy you seek. You will most surely find what you need for your growth path.
“Knock and the door shall be opened unto you.” – Matthew 7:7; Luke 11:9